people agree that sexual intimacy is related to relationship
couples have different expectations about intimacy and do not speak about them,
they often become resentful and argue. Sometimes the relationship ends
up being without sexual intimacy.
That is why it is essential to learn about compatibility and sexual compatibility before committing to a relationship.
Sexual compatibility has much to do with your attitudes and values around sexuality and commitment.
Discovering one's thoughts, feelings, and beliefs about sexuality does not necessarily mean you need to get sexually active with your potential partner. There are many ways to find out the most important.
sharing your concerns and expectations now, you will be better able to build a
solid foundation for a satisfying sexual life together.
There is no clear definition of sexual compatibility. Still, it is about how a couple shares sexual preferences, desires, and needs with their partner - including their definition of sex.The best thing a couple can do is talk through a wide range of scenarios. See how you are feeling about the following statements:
- We feel enthusiastic about intimacy.
- I cannot keep my hands off of my partner when I feel attracted to them.
- We are clear about the definition of consent in our relationship.
- We have pretty similar views on sensuality and sexuality.
- We are usually comfortable communicating our needs and boundaries.
- We are open about sharing our sensual side.
- We are curious about sexual self-expression and different activities.
- We prioritize intimacy and sexual life as a part of a committed relationship.
- We find it relatively easy to speak about our likes and dislikes.
- Our current sex drives match enough.
- In our relationship, we both clearly define fidelity and infidelity (regarding the views on online content, other people, etc.).
- We want our partner to feel comfortable initiating and being spontaneous in intimacy.
- We understand that each partner is seeking satisfaction in their perceived ways.
- We explore sexual activity not as routine but as more of a pleasurable journey.
- We should have regular conversations about our intimacy together.
- We want to discover our turn-ons.
- We take responsibility for ourselves instead of being obliged to each other.
- We will seek expert help if one person's interest in sexual expression changes significantly, either increasing or decreasing.
The more similarities you have, the more sexually compatible you possibly are.
Being up-front about your current views and preferences likely requires some self-reflection and personal experience about your own body.
When two people love and respect each other, they can easily explore aspects of intimacy. It all comes down to communication and safe boundaries.
your views about sexuality is also a vital component of consent. First, it is almost impossible to be in a fully consensual exchange if you don't know what is happening in your body or where your boundaries lie.
"Yes, no, maybe - list."
You might also begin by making a "Yes, No, Maybe" -list. Here are some ways to bring up sexuality along with your partner:
- "It can be exciting to fill out a 'yes, no, maybe - list' together. Does that sound like something you may like to do together?"
- "Before this gets serious, I would like you to know that kissing is a vital component in a sexual relationship to me."
Ultimately, if you and your partner are not on the same page, you may have some choices to make.
about the differences?
Sexual compatibility grows through constant open communication and dedication to learning about each other's sensual secrets and preferences.
Sexologist Christina can help you engage in a fun yet respectful conversation about sexual expression tailored to your particular communication style with your beloved.